Thursday, October 24, 2013

Listen, Trust Your Choice....

Actually... I had it written down like this: "Listen, Trust, Your Choice" (all broken up and separated by commas. You know... Three separate thoughts). I've been jotting sketchy little notes-to-self whenever I think of a 'blog' write-up that I'd like to post. One of the more recent notes stems from my realization that my God is trying to reach out to me via my kids... as I desperately reach out to them.

I kept telling my girls over and over again in recent months, "If you would just LISTEN. How much easier would life be? How much more pleasantly would we start our days? How much happier would we all be??" Oh. My. God. I then realized how much I'd been slacking in the "listening" category myself... In particular, I think that intuition is direct communication from above. When we get caught-up in the worldly crapola, it's easy for that instinctive knowing to start to fade. I'd been over-thinking, over-worrying, over-trying, but not nearly enough listening to my inner voice. K - good one, Big Guy. I get it. I'm listening. (Sorry!)

Then there was this whole battle about trust. I was explaining that when they lie, I lose their trust. Though, thankfully, they rarely play that card. The flip side of that coin?? When they don't trust me I about want to scream - because I (rarely) lie to them! (Sometimes, as a parent, it's a prerequisite, and I'm practicing when it is actually necessary. Think, oh - Santa Claus?!) But overall - I've learned early on - that honesty really is the best policy and not just a bunch of bs gibberish. So - I employ it. Hence my need to remind them, "Why can't you just trust your dad and me? Have we lied to you before?? Why won't you just TRUST us?!" Um. Yeaaaah. I get it. Okay. GOT IT... Again. (Sorry!)

Then, I was going on and on about how the consequences become THEIR own choice in the matter. We warn them about what will happen regarding their choices. When they choose poorly, there will be consequences (whether doled out by us, or by fate, depending on the situation.) Here I was saying, "Hey. It's YOUR choice, not mine. You have the choice. YOU make the choice about whether or not to listen, and therefore you make the choice as to whether you'll have to endure the consequences." WOW. Did You.... just do that... AGAIN?! Whew. Okay - yep! MY choice. Got it.

But then as I re-read my little list upon sitting down at my desk, I read it more quickly and without as much thought (over-thinking? Me?? Nah.) and it suddenly read: "Listen, Trust Your Choice." It was like, "Lalalalala" {Insert rays of sunlight beaming down through fluffy clouds.} It hit me differently. I've been questioning myself a little too much lately. And - wallah - once again - via my children (initially) - I'M the one being taught! What can I say? I guess it's fate! And truly - I did need the reminders. So be it far from me to sit here and wallow in hypocrisy, for cryin' out loud! 

TIP: Listen, Trust Your Choice  ;)
A QUOTE: "The more you trust your intuition, the more empowered you become, the stronger you become, and the happier you become." ~ Gisele Bundchen
WHIDFML: Made that massage a "Chakra balancing massage" - and I feel more at ease and much more open to my own instinctive thoughts again. {Yay!}

Intuition...this is true in all stages of your life :)

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

Island Time. A New Revolution!

Oh my gosh... I can't believe how long it's been since I've blogged here! Some days things just have to be put on the old 'back-burner' until time permits. Alas, this was one of those things. For many days. While I allowed life's demands to pull me out of my Island Time mentality.

Honestly, sometimes I'd think, "I don't need to blog about it. I'm just too busy to care, and why pressure myself." Other days I'd think, "But I WANT to blog about it. It's such a great record of my evolution (I imagine myself reminiscing in my rocking chair on the porch when we're in our 80's), and a creative outlet as well as an emotional one." Whatever the case, I just didn't feel motivated or inspired often times, to actually sit down and write. I have a theory on that....
Running and updating a photography business. Writing for income via an at-home-job-opp. Tending to children's continual needs. Laundry. Bills. Groceries. Grocery shopping. Children's continual needs. Making lunches for husband. Playing husband's secretary. Making lunches for children. Organizing dinner (and helping to cook & then cleaning up afterward). Keeping up house. Tending to children's continual needs. Did I mention children's continual needs? Because, well, they are continual. "Mommy" "Mommy" "Mommy" - the soundtrack to my life ;)

Ironically though, my lack of 'motivation' began with something much more positive and inspiring than being 'too busy'... It was my adoption of the concept of "Island Time'. For TWO full months after returning home from our amazing opportunity to visit the island of St. Kitts in the Caribbean, I felt this inward sense of peace and serenity - even in the face of day-to-day challenges that life may present. For those of you who have not (YET; If you dream it, it can happen) had the pleasure of visiting a Caribbean island... allow me to expand on this intrinsically beautiful, and simple concept that can be implemented into anyone's life at will. I highly recommend it too! Basically, it can be summed up like this: "Ah yes. We're here. We're working on it. We're all in this together. It'll GET done. Eventually." There you have it in plain old, upper-mid-western-life-constantly-on-the-go-go-go- translated-English... Island Time!

Actually, we had read about this other-worldly phenomenon during our research prior to arriving on the island. Sadly, it was portrayed as a very negative thing - in a number of restaurant reviews, in particular... "blah blah blah... and you'll probably wait at least 45 mins to get your food.... blah blah blah..." I was like, "WHO CARES?! Seriously - that is how our culture is? We're even in a 'hurry' to 'eat and run' while on vacation on a distant island?? Are you in a hurry to get back to - oh - I dunno - the BEACH? UM.... It'll still be there. Additionally, most of the restaurants are on or very near a beach. We ate on a sandy beach every evening! I can't understand why people are so incapable of just enjoying themselves leisurely any more, without the need to find something negative to remark on, or continually be in a hurry. It's got to be exhausting and disappointing to require such perfection and high expectations from people and from life.

Anyway - I see it purely as a positive thing, and - something I really needed - to help me maintain a more care-free way of life going forward. Now, when I begin to lose my grip on my "I'm not a robot" and "no need to be running constantly like mutated chickens without heads" approach to life, inevitably getting sucked back into the whirlwinds that constantly surround me, I conveniently remind myself, "Hey! It'll get done. On Island Time. 'S'all good."

It's not always easy. I did get unwittingly yanked back into the ol' hamster wheel for a while there... But, at least I have felt this basic, innate human inclination to slow down and actually ENJOY life in the process of living it! I know this way of life exists, and is absolutely beneficial to our overall well-being and health. I know, too, how to summon it again, and I even have a name for it now; Cheers to Island Time!

TIP: If your kiddo won't eat her sandwich at school because it gets a little bit 'icky' from condensation (due to a cold pack)... Try just a PB sandwich and 'sides' that don't require refrigeration. We use Santa Cruz Organic - in GLASS jars-  PB (My fave ingredient list EVER: "Peanuts, salt"!), and include things like dried fruits, plantain chips, organic crackers... You can also include whole apples or bananas without the need for a cold pack.
WHIDFML: Scheduled my first massage in many moons... Can't WAIT!!!!!!!!!
A QUOTE: "Beware the barrenness of a busy life." ~ Socrates
A PIN: Notebooks for sale! {Just remember, there are really only so many things that you HAVE to get done.... Island Time!}
i want to sell these at my store, I can think of 100s of people who would buy them LOL